School is out and the first few days at home are great! Your parents are happy to have you home and you are enjoying taking a break from classes. As the weeks go on, the patience of you and your parents will be challenged. It is important to understand where the both of you stand on certain topics and mutually agree on house rules.
As a student that finished your freshman year, you have to keep in mind that a little under a year ago you were still at home and not the independent person you are today. Your parents have to also understand that you have been on your own for almost a year. You may have some new thoughts and new habits they may not be accustom to or agree with.
When going home, be sure you understand and respect the rules in your parent’s house. You will want to verify certain things like curfew, dinner expectations, cleanliness, and having guest visit. Be sure you ask questions on these topics before you engage in the activities that will cause stress and strain on you and your parent’s relationship.
It is also good to communicate what you have on your agenda. Do you plan to work during the summer? Are you going to go and visit friends? Will you take classes? Do you want to travel? These are all things you have to ask yourself and communicate clearly with your parents. Being home is exciting and gives you the opportunity to see family and friends from high school. Be sure you are spreading your time evenly among all those that will want your attention. Give time to younger siblings, pets, and grandparents. Look for moments to bring old and new friends together at the same time. Spend time with just your parents and let them reconnect with you.
Finding balance is the most important part of transitioning home for the summer. Communicating your goals for the summer and learning the goals of everyone else will help you to develop a plan and schedule to accomplish everything on your list. Remember that some of the things that you were able to do while on campus, you will not be able to do while at home. You have to respect the rules in place and not challenge the authority of your parents. Three months of summer will go by fast and will be a short sacrifice for the peace that will be achieved by respecting your parent’s wishes and communicating with them. School is out for the summer, now go on and enjoy.