Well I have about one week before I move back into the dorm for my last year as a RA. I cannot believe I have been in college for almost six years and a RA for five of them. I guess you could say that I have been around the Res Ed block a time or two. I have some advice for incoming freshman as they start their journey in college.
1. Remember what you are here for
I have lost count on how many freshmen I meet that loose track as why they are at college. They get caught up with their friends, trying to be popular, partying, drugs, and laziness. College is not like high school. You are responsible for yourself. Your RA will not wake you up for class, make sure you study, or get your prescriptions when you’re sick (I had this happen to me this past year).
Take control of your education and be responsible with your choices. What you do on a Friday/Saturday night may come to haunt you the next day, week, month or years later. The choices you make now will affect you’re the rest of your life.
Now you are probably thinking wow Kailynn you are getting super deep or why should I listen to this girl? Well let me tell you. What I am telling you comes from personal experience. I have seen alcohol and drugs cause student to fail at classes, be arrested (check out Connecticut Bail Bonds Group locations in Hartford County CT for bail requests) , drop or most likely fail out of school. I have seen the student who does not study or go to class and those students rarely make it to their sophomore year.
So please remember why you are at college. Make smart choices.
2. Ask for help
I will tell you again college is not like high school. Your classes will not be easier and you will have to study (gasp). You may find out that you do not even know how to study since you never had to do it in high school. Well then ask for help. Talk to upper classmen, tutor, professors, or your RA.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. I had to learn this the hard way and you do not want to learn it the hard way. Do you want to be the person who failed an exam or the class because you did not ask for help? When you look back and think I could have passed that class if I went to my professors’ office hour. Sounds crazy doesn’t it? Well because it is.
Asking for help does not always end in the classroom. In the dorm your RA is placed on your floor to HELP YOU. So if you are having roommate issues do not wait till you are ready to murder each other. Bring your RA in. I have been contacted by roommates who have been having issues since September and now it’s March and they cannot stand it any longer. And I am always confused as why didn’t you tell me sooner? I could have helped.
So please ask for help. Whether if it is in your classes or dorm. Talk to a friend, parent, professor, RA or iRA. They are there to help you succeed in college.
3. Do your laundry/Take a shower
I think this point is self explanatory. Your RA does not want to have the “You smell” conversation with you and neither do you. It is very awkward for everyone. Trust me everyone will appreciate you smelling good (and no frebreze does not count as a doing your laundry or showering).
4. Experience college life
Sometimes college can be really stressful. So take a break and breathe. Experience college life. Make new friends, meet new people, join clubs, become passionate about something. This is a time to grow and find out the real you. Build yourself to become the person you want to be.
5. Don’t stress
Stress and college student really go hand and hand. If it is an assignment due tomorrow and you have yet to start, or your roommate’s music is driving you crazy, maybe your parents are hounding you about that grade you got on your biology test but the class average was a 52% and your were just below that average. Annnd breathe….stress is there but it how you deal with it that makes all the difference.
Talk to a friend, RA, professor, or stranger on the bus. Take time for yourself is important. Whether it is working out, spending time with friends, playing video games, reading a non-textbook, or just hiding out in your room.
That one class you got a C or D is really won’t make a huge impact on your life as a whole. I remember when my advisor told me the “D’s” are for degrees. I pretty much hated my life in one class and that statement really put things into perspective. I didn’t settle for a D but it made me think that in 5 or 10 years this class will not matter. I am not saying that you should make this your life motto (remember my first point?) but try not stress over the little things in life and enjoy the ride.
So here are a few points of advice and I hope that you listen and really take to heart what I have just said. If you have any questions, comments, or would like to add more advice points please do so. I would love to hear from you. Oh and I wish all freshman and RAs a wonderful 2013-2014 school year an good luck!
-With much love